We live in a world of high speed, and no, I am not talking about the speed of a Ferrari, or Internet speed per country, or the speed limit on a highway; I am talking about how we burn steps nowadays, in almost everything that we do.
We do not read books, but we Google the information that we want to know. We do not meet anymore, but we text, at best we call. We don’t write letters, we email. We do not fall in love we just fall in someone’s bed. We don’t want to work out, but we want a six pack. We don’t get in a plane and visit, but we Skype. We want everything, and we want it 5 minutes ago!
Last but not least, we want to be understood, but we do not take time to understand the ones around us.
“Patience is a virtue” someone said a long time ago, and it’s still true. With patience comes everything that’s worth something in our lives. From learning how to walk, to talk, to write, to read, to drive, to lose, to win, up to discovering the first kiss, the first love, the first yes that we get, the first job, and so forth. Pain leaves the soul with the help of this magical potion called patience. We can fix the unfixable; we forget and forgive.
All this came to me one day, when I was talking with a dear friend, that wants to be loved, completely, truly, but he wants this to happen overnight. He started using Tinder (you all know what I am talking about). Two dates later, he realised that he will not find love there, and so, a long period of dissapointment followed, keeping him in a vicious circle for a long time. I truly believe that patience can get him out of there. Patience for love to happen, because if you are planting a seed and every day you take the seed out from the ground to see if it started to grow, instead of pouring water on it, it will never grow, will it?!
In my case, I discovered the one’s in front of me with very small steps and enjoy the process of knowledge. To uncover the mystery of every smile, every pause, every look, every dimple that “landed” on someone’s face, every tear, every vulnerable spot, every fear that they might have, it has been a miracle. All this happened because I had patience, and gave a chance to the one’s around me to open up and rock my world, and by doing so I gave myself a chance to be surprised by life.
I challenge you, to have patience with the girl that doesn’t say yes after 3 dates, have patience to wait for the answer from the person that you asked how they are before you walk away, with your child when he/she doesn’t answer your questions, with your parents as they might get a bit senile with time. Have patience with your own soul, with your own scars, even with the traffic jams. Have patience, for the result of what is built with time and care, does not compare with anything that you might get 5 minutes ago.